The Science of Trust Audiobook (Free)

For days gone by thirty-five years, John Gottman’s study has been internationally recognized because of its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of human relationships. Within this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a simple social skill called “psychological attunement,” which identifies a couple’s ability to fully process and move ahead from negative emotional events, about The Research of Trust ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws out of this longitudinal analysis and theory showing how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples concentrate on positive attributes and memories, as well as help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thus helping couples connect, respect each other, and show passion. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the topics of flooding, the story we inform ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing associations, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that may carry the relationship through difficult instances. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through consciousness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive hearing, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire self-confidence in couples, as well as the feeling that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This reserve, an important follow-up to his 1999 The Relationship Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers a detailed intervention for dealing with couples, and will be offering lovers a roadmap to a more powerful future together.